The Art of Doing

Quit Whining And Start Doing: Your Perfect Is Now

Think about the sheer number of times you called up your friend just to complain about how bad your life was or how unfair someone treated you. Have you ever wondered what you sounded like to a third person? Not that you are the only person who is unhappy about the current circumstances of his or her life but when you're not the person who is complaining about it, it sounds pretty depressing.

Don't take me wrong. I don't intend to say that sharing your troubles with another is something you should not do. In fact it is healthier to share your burdens with a friend than bottle it all inside which would ultimately cause not just psychological distress but also make you physically ill.However know that there is a considerably "thick" line between sharing your distress and complaining about something. The latter is not only unproductive but on the long run can even turn into an addiction.

Which one are you? 

"Nothing in life seems to go right and nothing seems to make me happy. I'm obviously cut out for better things than these but here I am, stuck in this room when I should be out there, changing the world!" Sounds familiar? Note how vague the words are. There is nothing specific being said and the whole argument has been set in emotion rather than logic or facts, making it not a valid argument but a mere complain made by someone unsatisfied with the current situation. Want to know what is worse? The speaker has not even identified the root cause for the discontentment, which means that there is no chance of any rectifying action taking place anytime soon.

It is sad to see,  how even after going through so many levels of evolution, people still fail to understand that happiness or contentment cannot be store bought or received by waiting. You might convince yourself by deception ; 'he might not love me but he still provides for me', 'I might hate this job that makes me slave away for a petty salary but what would I do without it?' 'I hate engineering but my parents want an engineer in the family!' Does this sound like happiness to you? 

Like all good things, happiness needs to be earned and that requires making some tough decisions. Be it work, education or a relationship, if you are not happy with what you get, you need to get up from your seat , make a move (run if you have to!) and make some changes. If you're in a position that does not allow you to make a drastic move immediately, at least try to improve on your current circumstances. 

Changes can range from making a phone call, voicing a burden, learning something new, talking to your superior,cleaning your desk,getting a tattoo or removing one, joining a gym, ending a relationship or starting one, going on an adventure, facing a fear, applying for a job, to quitting what you're doing and walking out.It might seem a bit selfish at first, but remember if you're stressed out and constantly unhappy it will most certainly affect the ones around you. 

Making a decision, especially the life changing kind (is there any other kind?)

can be quite scary. Decisions have consequences ; good and bad. You might make some people happy, and some angry. Putting those decisions into action could be worse, they will carry literal real life results, and you just as might fail. People will blame you, they will call you names, undermine your ability and wait for you to fail, miserably.On the bright side, people who love you will always be there for you (given your whining hasn't already chased them away).They might not necessarily encourage you at first, but they will give you sound advice and see you through.No matter how scary or rebellious it may seem, if a decision you make has the power to improve your current status for better, I think it's worth a try. 

So quit whining and start doing, because complaining about your problems will not make them go away. 

Pularae